We all have known someone who was too “try hard,” someone who seemed desperate for the attention or validation of those around them. Maybe it was a guy at work who needed to always be right, or a girl who complained about everything so people would feel sorry for her, or the friend who did crazy things to impress his friends and be cool.
Likely these people annoyed you and they annoyed women.
When it comes to being non-needy, if you are trying to be non-needy so you can be more attractive, then you’re paradoxically being needy. I know that sentence probably made your brain explode, so let’s try it again.
You should adopt non-needy behaviors because you care about yourself and want to improve yourself. Attracting women should be a side-effect of that desire.
If you attempt to adopt non-needy behaviors in an attempt to impress others, you are still being needy. You are faking it, and you will eventually be exposed. The only way to develop a genuine attraction through women is by genuinely investing in yourself.
When it comes to expressing sexual desire openly, if you’re doing it because you think it’s what a woman wants to hear, then your actions are going to come across as inauthentic and she will not trust you. If you treat telling a woman she’s beautiful or sexy and want to sleep with her as a “line” or a “strategy” to be memorized or adopted, then women will smell your neediness like a rank pair of underwear and turn you down.
