But what does this mean for a couple regular guys like you and me?
It means being nervous around her is going to be a pretty big turn off. Afraid to talk to her, afraid to ask her out, afraid to kiss her, afraid to take her home—Fabio the Firefighter wouldn’t be afraid to ravish the shit of her, so why should you?
What it means is that despite every woman you’ve ever heard complain about men hitting on them, bold displays of interest actually work in your favor the majority of the time, as long as they’re demonstrated in a manner that is not too threatening or disrespectful.
Some examples (for better or worse, these are taken from experience):
- Telling a woman she’s beautiful and you’d like to get to know her better. GOOD IDEA
- Whistling at a girl on the street and calling her names. BAD IDEA
- When a woman seems interested in you, just grabbing her and trying to kiss her. GOOD IDEA
- Following a woman for three blocks telling her what you want to do to her sexually. BAD IDEA
- Telling a woman you’re kissing where and how you’d like to have sex with her. GOOD IDEA
- Touching a woman inappropriately when you don’t know her or have not received interest from her. BAD IDEA
Men typically underestimate how forward they can be with women. And they vastlyunderestimate how effective being forward and open about their sexual desires is with women who are attracted to them.
As one member of my Sexual Confidence Program wrote:
